Trinity Episcopal Church
484 Lime Rock Road
Lakeville, CT 06039
The Rev. Heidi Truax, Rector
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MORE about Worship at Trinity.....
who come to church at Trinity for the first time say they were thinking about coming to church for a while,
but they were worried that they would stand out or embarrass themselves.
We hope that you won't feel any
apprehension about coming to Trinity.
Trinity Family is a diverse, inclusive community welcoming all who are on
spiritual journeys. Many of us at Trinity were raised in
churches other than the Episcopal Church, and several in no church at all, so we all understand that some of the
language we use and the ways we worship may seem odd or even incomprehensible at first.
We hope that these questions and answers will help you feel more
comfortable about visiting us -- and perhaps even eventually joining us as a
of the parish!!
How do I get there, where do I go in the building, and what
Good questions!! First, we've got a
Google Map called "getting
here" -- please check it! Park in our parking lot, which you
can enter from Dugway Road -- there's plenty of parking.
Here's a short
slide show that will help.
You'll probably want to enter
the church via the door under the bell tower -- except in January
and February. We keep those
doors closed in January and February to keep the temperature a
little more comfortable inside. During those months, you should enter
through the red doors in Walker Hall. Someone there will show you
how to get to the sanctuary.
When you enter the sanctuary, if it's the 10:30 AM
service, you'll be greeted by an usher who will hand you a program.
If it's the 8 AM service, look for a program on a table near the door,
and make yourself comfortable.
Where should I sit?
It's natural to
want to sit someplace where you won't be noticed the first time you
visit a new church. Usually, this means as close to the
back row of pews as possible.
However, we'll suggest that you
might want to consider choosing a seat a bit closer to the front.
First of all, we're a small and friendly congregation, so most likely
someone will go out of their way to welcome you to Trinity regardless of
where you sit. And, of course, you can hear and see
better closer to the front.
are those two books in the pew rack?
Episcopal Church is a “liturgical” church, meaning that we have a fixed form of
worship, called a liturgy -- a different one for each kind of worship service.
So we can keep them all straight, the liturgies for Holy Eucharist (also called Communion), Morning and Evening Prayer and other
services are found in The Book of Common Prayer (that's the red book).
The page numbers
used in the service can be found in
the program the usher most likely handed you when you entered. Also, the
priest will sometimes announce what page we're currently on. Please follow along with us; because sometimes we do jump back and
forth! Don’t worry if you lose your place; a neighbor will be glad to help you
-- please don't be embarrassed to ask!
Any musical selection listed with a number starting with “S”
(for service music) can be found in the front of the Hymnal (the blue
book), before the
hymns themselves -- but sometimes you'll find the service music for the service
will be printed on a card in your pew. The Order of Worship
(that program you received when you came in) will tell you
where to look.
Another place to
find the numbers of the hymns for the day is on the board at the front of the
sanctuary, on the wall to the left of the organ.
There's also a third book to the
pews. That's the Holy Bible. You can find the Bible readings
there if they're not printed in the Order of Service.
my children and I receive Communion?
All baptized Christians, regardless of denomination and age, are
welcome to receive Communion in the Episcopal Church. Join us at the altar!
Here's the process we
follow at Trinity:
service you're attending is a small one without ushers (like our 8 AM Holy
Eucharist), the priest will ask you to come forward at the correct time.
If there are ushers (as there are at our 10:30 AM Holy Eucharist on
Sundays), they will stand next to the row you're seated in and nod to let you
know it's time to go up to the altar.
If there's a choir at the
service you attend, they usually take Communion first, so you can always watch what they do for a hint
your turn to receive Communion, place one hand atop the other, with your palms
up. The priest will place the bread (usually a
wafer) in your hands.
You may eat it immediately, followed by a sip of wine, or you may hold the wafer to
dip into the wine in the cup. (If you prefer to sip from the cup directly, please grasp the base
of the cup lightly and guide it to your lips.)
way, usually gluten-free wafers are available, and there is also usually a
second chalice with grape juice if you prefer that to wine. Simply
ask the priest when you are at the rail.
If you decide not to take Communion,
of course you may remain in your pew. However, you are very welcome to come to the altar
along with the people receiving Communion and receive a blessing instead. While kneeling
(or standing) at
the altar rail, just cross your arms over your chest as a sign that you don't
receive Communion but prefer a blessing instead.
Can I receive Communion if I
am unable to get up the steps to the altar?
Just tell the usher that you would like to receive Communion in your pew. After the
congregation has been served at the altar, the priest and the chalice bearer will bring
the bread and wine to you where you are sitting.
When do people stand,
kneel, or sit?
The traditional practice of
Episcopalians is to stand for praise, sit for instruction, and kneel for
prayer. However, you will notice almost immediately that at Trinity Lime Rock not everyone follows
tradition! Please do whatever feels comfortable for you.
Another good way to know whether to stand
or sit is to watch the priest who is leading the service. Unless
the priest is preaching the sermon, or making announcements to the
congregation, you can do what he (or she) does -- or says to do -- and you'll have the
satisfaction of knowing that you're correct.
do some people cross themselves, bow or genuflect?
This is a matter of personal preference. Many people make the sign
of the cross at certain points during the service as a reminder of God’s love.
Others bow their heads or genuflect (kneel briefly on one knee).
Trinity is a community that
welcomes people from a wide
range of denominations and religious backgrounds, and in some of them
these expressions of personal devotion are very important -- so, people continue to
use them at Trinity. In other religious traditions they are not
used, and people from those traditions tend not to use them at Trinity
-- but some who have never used them decide to start, while others who
grew up using them decide to stop!
In any case, there are many
forms of religious expression; please do what is meaningful for you.
is “the Peace”?
Greeting one another at a point during the service
called "The Peace"
is symbolic of the peace which God creates between us.
You'll know when it will happen from the Order of Worship, and the
Priest will announce it.
Here at Trinity, some folks will say “The peace of the Lord” while shaking your hand,
others will offer a simple "Peace" or “Good morning!” There is no set formula for
exchanging the Peace; please do what feels comfortable for you.
all means do exchange the Peace with all those seated around you,
young people. This
is completely appropriate and at Trinity it's frankly expected
that you will exchange the Peace with those around you -- including
children -- whether you know them or not.
How long do services last?
|Our 8 AM Sunday service, the weekly
service without music, lasts about 40 minutes. Our 10:30 AM
service, which includes music, runs a bit longer -- just a little over
an hour, usually, but on major Sundays (like Easter) an hour and a half
is a better estimate.
Evensong, tend to be quite short -- under half an hour. A few, like
the Easter Vigil, run around two hours (and most people who have
attended it say it's
worth every minute!)
happens at the end of the service?
At the close of the service, after the blessing
hymn and during the organ postlude, the Celebrant (the Priest) usually stands at the
front of the sanctuary to greet you as you go into the church hall for
Also, at Trinity you'll notice that many people stay and listen to the organ postlude -- and
frequently applaud when it's concluded! (We're fortunate to have an
extraordinary organist who
usually creates the postlude by improvising on the recessional hymn
-- something you're not likely to hear elsewhere!)
We also invite you to join us for
hospitality hour (also
known as coffee hour) in Walker Hall after the
10:30 service. We're proud of our food and our hospitality, and it's an easy way to meet some
To get directly to Walker Hall, leave by the door in the
front of the church instead of the door in the rear of the church.
That's why the Priest often stands at that door at the end of the service --
most people come to coffee hour, including people attending Trinity for
the first time! You're invited!
May I take pictures
in the church?
|For special occasions you
are welcome to take photos, but please do not use flash during the
On most special occasions
(for example, Baptisms) there will be an opportunity after the service
to take flash pictures.
bring my children to church?
always welcome at Trinity. We are a family-oriented
church, and we make a real effort to involve young people in our regular
worship. On our monthly Youth Sundays you'll frequently see them
leading portions of the worship, in fact. Most Sundays you'll see
them helping the ushers with the collection and at other times.
We have a
page with more questions and answers
about young people in church that
includes some specific
suggestions you may find helpful.